As a parent, it can be easy to lose your cool. It is really important that no matter how frustrated you are, you never say something that can be damaging to your child. Although common, there are some phrases that just need to be avoided. Here are five common phrases parents say that should be avoided:
1. “Leave me alone!”
We know that you may be having a hard day, or just need some alone time, but avoid using this phrase as much as possible. The problem with this phrase is that if you say it enough, your child will begin to feel like they cannot go to you or talk to you. As they get older, this may make them closed off to sharing things with you.
2. “You’re so…”
Whatever you do, don’t label your child. Saying “She’s so shy” or “you’re so quiet” can have a negative impact on your child. Any negative label you give them could turn into a self-fulfilling prophecy. This also could make the child feel bad about themselves.
3. “Stop crying.”
There is a common myth in society that crying is weak. In reality, crying is a great way to release emotions and stress. Although we don’t want our kids to be crying all day, a little crying here and there to release emotions or stress is good. It is natural to want to protect your child, but you also don’t want them to feel like they can’t be open around you or share their true feelings.
4. “Wait until your father gets home!”
This threat is very common in households across America. The issue with saying this is that it makes it seem like you cannot handle the situation yourself. Passing the problem off to your husband will undermine your authority with your kids. Most dads are seen as the bad cop, because mom’s pass off problems for them to handle. Next time there is an issue with your child solve the issue yourself and let daddy be the good cop for once!
5. “Your sister wouldn’t do that.”
Comparing your children is one of the worst things you can do, especially in front of said child. You never want to tell them that child A did something better than them or is more polite than them, because this will make them feel hurt. Instead of comparing child, encourage achievements. Your children may be different, but not all differences are bad ones!
Written by Kim Webb, CEO and Founder of Rockin’ Green Soap
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